appearences

Appearances Can Be Deceiving

“Have a good evening,” she said with a naughty grin.  “Don’t do anything I wouldn’t do.”

“Bye!” I said laughing as I walked toward the elevator.

I walked to my car and got it.  It was a nice day so I rolled down my windows and turned up my radio a bit as I headed out of the parking lot.  I had to stop by the store so I decided I would give him a call when I got to the store.  I needed some time to enjoy the music and the breeze.

When I got to the store, I rolled up my windows and hopped out of the car.  As I was walking in, I dialed my cell phone to give him a call.  I got his voicemail so I left him a message letting him know that I had left work a bit before 4pm and was heading home but that I was still open to the early dinner idea from my email.  I hung up and pulled out my list.  I had to make a list every time I went to the store so I wouldn’t get off task and pick up things I didn’t need.  I had a bad habit of doing that.

As I was going through the self check out line, my phone rang.  I hit ignore so I could pay attention to my purchases.  I hated it when people were at the register doing twelve things at once and holding up the line.  I paid for my purchases and grabbed by bags.  As I was walking to my car, I pulled out my phone and checked the call log.  He had called me back but didn’t leave a message.  I closed my phone and headed back to my car to put my bags in the trunk.  Once I got in and backed out, I picked up my phone to call him back.

I got his voicemail again and left another message.  “Hey, I saw that you called but didn’t leave a message.  I just left the store and am headed home now.  Give me a call back and let me know if you still want to get together.”

I rolled down my windows again and cranked up my music.  I put my cell phone on my leg so I would feel it vibrate if I got a call.  As I was pulling into my parking space, my phone vibrated.  I turned down the music and answered.  It was him.

“Hi!” I said.  “How are you?”

“I’m fine,” he said in a tight voice.  “Where are you?”

“I’m just parking at my apartment.  Did you get my voicemail messages and email?” I asked.

“Yes, I got them,” he said.  “When I called you back, you didn’t answer.  What were you doing?”

“Sounds you didn’t get my second message.  I was at the store when you called.  I called you right back, though,” I said.

“Oh at the store, huh?” he said.

“Yeah,” I said feeling a little annoyed.

“Well I wanted to come over and see you tonight.  Do you feel up to company?” he said.

“I am tired from last night,” I said.  “But I’m ok with you coming by for an early dinner.  I can cook something.”

“An early dinner?” he said.  “Why does it have to be an early dinner?”

“Because I’m tired and I need to get some sleep.  I barely made it through the day today and I have some deadlines coming up at work that I need to be alert for this week,” I said.

“Oh,” he said sounding disappointed.  “I wanted to come and spend the night with you again.”

“While that sounds absolutely lovely, I would probably fall asleep on you,” I said.  “What if we do that Friday night so we can spend Saturday together as well?  My Saturday is wide open.”

“Well, I guess that would be ok,” he said.  “I was really looking forward to seeing you tonight but I guess I can hold out.”

“Cool,” I said.

We continued talking as I got out of the car and headed inside.  After I put everything away, I told him I was going to take a shower and get comfortable for the evening.  We said goodbye and I headed to my room to take a quick shower and put on my lounging clothes.

After I got out of the shower, I went to the kitchen to make myself some dinner.  I was more tired than hungry so I took out the ingredients for a salad.  I had some grilled chicken left over from another meal so I cut that up and added in some apple slices, onions, carrots and cheese.  I put it in a bowl and pulled out a bottle of white wine.  I took my glass of wine and salad over to the couch and turned on the television.  I really needed to veg out some before I went to bed to rest my mind.

As I was eating the salad and watching television, I heard a knock at my door.  I walked over to it and looked out the peep hole.  It was him.

I opened the door.

“What a surprise,” I said.  “What brings you by?”

“I just couldn’t wait until Friday to see you again,” he said.

He grabbed me and kissed me passionately.

When we parted, I stepped back.  He was still standing in the open doorway.

“Wow,” I said.  “That was a lot.  Is something wrong?”

“No,” he said.  “Can’t I just be happy to see you?”

“Sure,” I said.  “I just wasn’t expecting you tonight based on our conversation a couple of hours ago.”

“Are you not happy to see me?” he asked.  I saw a small flicker of that thing in his eyes again.  It was the same look I saw the other night.  My stomach clenched slightly.

“I’m happy,” I said.  “I’m just surprised to see you-that’s all.”

He reached for me again but I was too far away from him after I took a few steps back.  He came into my apartment but left the door open.  He narrowed his eyes a little and took a step towards me.  I tried to focus my mind and assess the situation as best I could.  I couldn’t understand why this was happening.  I really liked this guy and here he was stepping menacingly towards me but I wasn’t sure why.

“Is everything ok?” I asked.

“No,” he said.  “I really wanted to see you and you didn’t want to see me.”

I shook my head slowly from side to side as I continued to back away from him further into my living room.

“No,” I said.  “It’s not that I didn’t want to see you but I am really tired and I didn’t want to be rude and fall asleep on you.”

“Well I really wanted to see you so I came over anyway to see you,” he said.

I wanted to get him to calm down and start acting like the guy that I had been falling for over the past few months.

“Here, have a glass of wine,” I said motioning to my glass sitting on the living room table.  “Let me go get another glass from the kitchen and we can talk.”

He looked at me with that crazy look in his eye and then walked over to the couch and sat down.

I walked into the kitchen and looked for my cell phone.  Thankfully I had left it in the kitchen when we finished talking earlier and no one had called since then.  I picked up the phone and dialed 911 but didn’t hit the send key.  I pulled out the bottle of wine and got another glass.  I walked back to the living room and sat down next to him on the couch.  I pulled out the wine cork and poured myself a glass of wine.

“Would you like more?” I asked.

He shook his head so I reached over and poured a bit more into his glass.  He picked it up and took a big gulp before sitting the glass down.  He stared at the television for a minute then he looked over at me.  I breathed a sigh of relief when I saw that crazy look out of his eyes.  He looked like the guy I’ve gotten to know and like a lot again.

“What’s wrong?” he asked.

“Well you kind of caught me off guard,” I said, choosing my words carefully so as not to set him off.  “I wasn’t expecting you to stop by tonight. I thought we were going to get together Friday.”

“Oh,” he said.  “I just wanted to see you and the next thing I knew, I was in my car driving over.”

He reached over to give me a kiss and I flinched slightly.  He pulled back, eyes widening.

“What’s wrong?” he asked.  “Did I scare you?”

“Yeah, a little,” I said.  “There was a look in your eyes that worried me.”

He leaned over again and brought me close to him for a hug.  After a few minutes, he let me go and kissed me on the cheek and forehead.

“I apologize if I frightened you,” he said.  “Sometimes I get really intense when I feel really strongly about something or someone.  I really like you and after last night I just couldn’t get you off my mind.”

I smiled at how sweet he was being.  I leaned over and gave him a kiss.

“It’s ok,” I said.  “I’m flattered that you wanted to see me so bad.  Let me take your jacket.  Would you like some salad?”

He took off his jacket and handed it to me.  I closed the front door and walked over to the closet to hang up his jacket when I felt him right behind me.  I turned around in shock and he grabbed my neck tightly.

“When I say I want to see you, you’d better make the time to see me,” he said menacingly.  “Don’t ever tell me no again.”

I tried to speak but couldn’t get the words out as he squeezed my throat.  Tears began to roll down my cheeks and I felt myself getting dizzy.  My hands were hanging by my sides so I reached into my pocket and hit the send button on my cell phone thankful that I had kept 911 keyed in.  Right before I passed out, I felt him kiss me on the forehead and whisper “I’m sorry.”

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Practicing Authenticity

A few years ago I made a promise to myself that I would be my most authentic self at all times. This happened as a result of me feeling kind of resentful that the people around me seemed to think they “knew” me and would try to inject that knowledge into my life at various times. Once I got past being annoyed, I realized that it wasn’t just happening to me. This happens to everyone and there is no real way to make people stop doing this.

However, I realized that the one thing I could do to manage this was to make it a point to be myself authentically at all times. So when someone tries to tell me who I am, I can receive the information and recognize that it’s simply how they see me based on their own lens of experience.

That was an empowering thought and I began to do it right away. But after doing it, I began to notice that while being my authentic self is important, it’s not always easy to do. I know that may sound odd because who else should you be but yourself?

But I did learn that authenticity, like many other things, is a practice. The more you practice it, the better you will get at it. I’ve made some videos about this very topic. Since I’ve come to fully accept and realize that authenticity is a practice, I will make more videos to accompany this one.

I would love to hear your thoughts. Please join me on this journey into practicing authenticity.

2013 Holiday Gift Guide

Hi everyone!

I realize that the blog looks a little different. I had some crazy technical difficulties recently that I am still working through but I wanted to share a gift guide highlighting some of the cool things I’ve had the opportunity to try this year. If you’re unsure what to get that lady in your life, these are some great options.

FRAAS Metallic Scarf

fraas metallic holiday scarf

This is a great scarf that I had the opportunity to take on a test drive thanks to the folks over at Lipton Publicity. It’s a lush, metallic scarf that will jazz up almost any outfit. In fact, I made a short video showing you some cool ways to wear it. The thing about a great scarf is that it is timeless and can be worn year round.

Visit www.store.fraas.com to check out their selection of fabulous scarves!

 

Kushyfoot Fleece Inspired Leg wear

kushyfoot fleece inspired legwearThanks again to the wonderful folks over at Lipton Publicity, I had the opportunity to try out the Kushyfoot Fleece Inspired Leg wear. I tried these socks that felt like slightly thicker versions of other trouser socks that I have. I wasn’t sure how warm they would keep my feet but I was pleasantly surprised when I wore them one chilly day. They worked great! I love that they’re thin and can work with all types of shoes while keeping my feet nice and cozy. These would make a great stocking stuffer. Everyone likes a great pair of trouser socks!

Get them at www.kushyfoot.com.

 

Sony Wireless Headphones

sony walkman wirelessI got a pair of these because of my Klout score so this is one of the types of perks you can get using Klout. I got them earlier this year and they have become a staple in my workout routine. I have had some interesting experiences getting tangled up in my headphone cords while running. These have made that problem no longer an issue. The sound is great and I wear them whenever I go running, hiking, walking or anything where I need music.

You can get them at www.store.sony.com.

 

Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg

Lean InI am an entrepreneur so I like to keep my ear to the ground when good books come out. I wasn’t sure what to expect when I first heard about Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg the COO of Facebook. A lot of the women in my network were talking about the book including my fabulously smart business partner. In fact, she suggested that I get it and give it a read. I did and loved it. This book touches on all aspects of a woman’s life; professional and personal. It’s inspirational for entrepreneurs like me as well as women who work for other companies. It’s also a great read for the stay at home moms as well. Another great stocking stuffer that will inspire the lady in your life.

Get it on Amazon www.amazon.com/lean-in-women-work

I hope you were inspired by my gift guide. These gifts could work for different types of ladies so I encourage you to check them out.

Happy Holidays!!

 

 

 

 

How do I wear that trend…rhinestone shoes

As a new fan of sparkly shoes, I was pleased as punch to see them on the runways for Spring/Summer. I have been diligently searching for a fabulous pair of sparkly pumps, but haven’t found a pair yet.sparklylouboutin

However, I wanted to share some tips on how everyone can enjoy sparkly/rhinestone shoes. It’s not very hard but when you wear anything that sparkles, you have to do it with confidence. So before you slip on your sparkly piece, slip on your confidence!

1. Wear a solid colored outfit and let your shoes shine, literally. If you are diving into the monotone trend that has been hanging around for a while, this is a good time to throw on those fabulous shoes. They can be your statement piece.

2. Wear them with a casual, basic outfit. One of my favorite things to see/do is to put on a plain white or black t-shirt, dark jeans and some fabulous shoes. In this instance, you could throw on some sparkly shoes and let them be your pop of color. They could add a little glam to an otherwise understated outfit.

3. Wear them to vamp up a vampy outfit. I’m a big fan of the sexy secretary look with a pencil skirt, fitted top and pumps. If you want to go this route, you could add a little extra voom to your va va va voom with some fabulous sparkly pumps.

So there you have it, three easy was to get your sparkle on. Once I find my fabulous pair, I will do some outfit posts to show you how I’m rocking my sparkle. But in the meantime, show me how you do yours. Send me pics and I’ll do a round-up of your looks in a follow-up post.

Sparkle on!

SAIC Fashion Show-guest post by Danielle

Danielle of beltsandbangles.com, shared her recent trip to Chicago to enjoy the sights, sounds and of course, fashion in the city!
I recently spent a fabulous long weekend in Chicago exploring the city, shopping and eating at some amazing restaurants. With the help of some web searching, I was able to score a room at a hip Chicago hotel, allowing me to stay within my budget for the four-day visit. After shopping up and down the length of the Magnificent Mile, I hopped the train to Wicker Park and Logan Square to check out boutiques for vintage clothing.

http://www.saic.edu/degrees_resources/departments/fash/index.html#fash_show

It was the perfect time to visit the Windy City because the annual School of the Art Institute of Chicago Fashion Show was held on April 19. In the 78-year history of the SAIC Fashion Show, this was the largest number of garments shown. One of the highlights of the show was seeing Cynthia Rowley, an alumna of the fashion school, who was honored with the 2012 SAIC Legend of Fashion Award.

Several hot fashion trends were on display at the show:

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Futurism

Many students drew inspiration from outer space and futuristic ideas. Senior Andrew Cruz showed a body-hugging leotard with angled reflective sunglasses, while Leah Babette offered a metallic menswear bodysuit with rugged army-inspired boots.

Bold stripes

Several students presented looks with large, bold stripes. Alyssa van Sickel’s yellow and white-striped top with three-quarter sleeves was a breezy, interesting look. Pairing it with a flowing gray and brown-striped skirt created a chic look that I’m dying to replicate.

Game of Thrones

HBO’s hottest new series was an apparent influence in this year’s fashion show. Lucy Silverman’s luxurious cream fur coat topped with a gold, crown-like headpiece was a hit. I also loved Jenny Farrell’s use of rich, deep red velvet in a nod to the medieval fantasy aesthetic of the TV series.

http://www.redeyechicago.com/news/local/loop/redeye-saic-fashion-show-april-19-20120420,0,6869677.photogallery

Vibrant Menswear

Menswear is no longer confined to drab colors and silhouettes. Paul Musial showed a brilliant menswear look with slouchy blue pants paired with a vibrant yellow blazer. Men, take a chance with your wardrobe this season and add a pop of color to your look.

In all, the SAIC Fashion Show was the highlight of my trip to Chicago. It was inspiring to see the fresh new faces in the fashion scene and get new ideas to keep my wardrobe current. I’ll certainly be following several of these designers in the years to come, and I can’t wait to see the hot new trends at next year’s show.

Danielle is a full-fledged, no apologies, into-the-trenches thrift store warrior. When she isn’t scouting out her next hot find; she blogs for Sears and other brands she uses. She’s found everything from jumpsuits to grass skirts to a wedding dress and gotten the old lady smell out of all of them. Read her fashionably thrifty musings on beltsandbangles.com.

How do I wear that trend…clutch purses

http://www.sheknows.com/beauty-and- style/articles/802665/cute-and-colorful-clutch-purses -for-spring

Honestly, I’ve never been a fan of clutches but my reasoning is less about how they look and more about how they’re made. I could always picture myself carrying a clutch out and putting it down somewhere, forgetting where I put it. So I was always hesitant to engage in the clutch trend. But several years ago, I stumbled across a really cute clutch that had a wrist strap attached to it.

I was pleased and that purse became my go to going out purse. Eventually it began to fall apart but now I’m fully on board with the clutch trend, as long as there is a wrist strap involved. But for those of you who won’t leave your purse at a restaurant or somewhere out, I suggest you dive into the clutch trend. They are so cute and can really make an outfit pop in a small but meaningful way.

As you can see, the picture to the right has a wide variety of clutches, some with straps and others without straps. If you decide to participate in the clutch trend, share pictures of your favorite one. I’d love to see how you rock your clutch purse!